A few weeks ago, my truck broke down as I attempted to move to another city.
There will always be maintenance problems with an older truck, but this time I knew it was done.
To make matters worse, my truck was filled with all my personal possessions for my move, my pet, and it was raining outside. The cherry on top was that I was in a dead part of South Carolina where only highways and small rural towns exist.
My desire to keep moving was obviously there. My ignition worked and the keys were in, but the engine was done.
Contrast that with my first truck I ever owned, where the engine could have gone on forever, but the starter ignition was always breaking, and you’ll see that two very different problems can lead to the same result.
For my trucks, I needed both the keys AND the engine to drive.
And that’s my problem with motivation and discipline. You need both.
Some people only talk about having motivation. What is motivation? It’s simply a desire, or a desired outcome. But desire without action is just a want.
Others only talk about having discipline in your life. Discipline without desire is just work. And not the good kind. I am disciplined every morning to wake up early and go to my day job, but that’s not what I would do if I had the option.
Here’s the required equation: desire (or motivation) + discipline = commitment.
Commitment is what we’re after. Why? Because it binds both discipline and motivation together like a glue.
For example, when you have the keys (desire) and a good running engine (discipline) you can drive forever. There WILL be good driving days and bad driving days. Sometimes it will rain, storm, snow, and sometimes it will be breezy and sunny. But you’ll still be able to AND want to be able to drive.
You don’t just want discipline. You don’t just want motivation. Either of them by themselves will just end up in failure. You need to bind both of them together to result in a commitment to yourself.
But why don’t we hear more about this? Because it’s not a sexy word.
Commitment sounds more like something you’d hear a relationship therapist talking about. It’s not something we think about positively in relation to what we want OR need.
If you want to look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of what you see, you should be running to commitment.
The great thing about committing to yourself is that you only have yourself to work on – and all the work you put into yourself results in a net positive change for your life and happiness.
Enjoy your holiday weekend!